My memory is non-existent.
I'm not great with people as it is. My husband and I joke that I have that disorder that makes one unable to recognize faces. There are many famous people that own second homes in my town and they are all safe from me because I'm incapable of recognizing them. I was also incapable of identifying my old neighbor unless she was in her home--that was rather embarrassing, there were 3-4 times she said hello to me out in public and I'd be all, "Uh...hi?" until I saw her kid. She just looks like too many other people or something.
So, I have easily forgotten 95% of people from middle school and 85% of people from high school, which makes Facebook challenging.
Here's how my Facebook friend request process goes:
I have a friend request--yay!!
Wait, I don't recognize this person at all. Who in the hell?
Great. This is awkward. Now some creeper has found me, I've never seen this person ever in my whole life. (Studies pictures closer) No, never. Fucking weirdo.
17 friends in common? Fuck. Okay, we all went to high school together so I know this person from high school. (Studies pictures again, scrutinizing for any trace of recognition, trying other last names on the person if they are female.)
Fuck. Well, great. Here I am being a jerk again. This person seems perfectly nice and here I am calling them a creep because I have no idea who they are.
(Report situation to Mr. Ashley, who couldn't care less and advises me to ignore them.)
BUT I FEEL BAD, I explain to him loudly.
(Send childhood best friend a message asking if she knows them, 90% of the time she doesn't either which makes me feel better and worse.)
And then I just give up, deciding that having an awkward semi-stranger in my life is easier than letting them know that I think of them as an awkward semi-stranger and I reluctantly accept their friend request.
And that's why I have people I couldn't pick out of a line up as friends on Facebook.