Wednesday, April 16, 2008

Avoidance, not action...oops

I have all kinds of shit to do. Today is belly casting day and Em is spending the night. So I should be cleaning up. I just really don't want to.

The Renee advised me to go do three things and I agreed that was a good idea.

So I'm going to do this, get a Coke, and wander around.

1-2-3 Done.

I DID get an email from Girl Crush this morning. It made me remember that someone here asked if she knows that she's my girl crush and I never answered that.

I'm pretty sure she does know. In fact, I think we're both so open about our liking of each other that it probably shouldn't even be called a crush anymore, we're probably officially an item.

It's a weird friendship because it has kind of been like that from the start. She sat by me at a "mom's night out" my playgroup had and I saw her "Realtor" pin (that I've teased her about a few times since) and gave her my comedy bit on real estate and talked her ear off about the market. Then LK came and I made everyone play musical chairs so I could sit by her and didn't really get to talk to Girl Crush again that night.

But then, she emailed me the next day (through my group's email) and said she had enjoyed meeting me and that I was really funny and it would be fun to go have a drink or three together.

Yep, she was courting me. Of course I was flattered and sent something witty back and things have just progressed from there. We joke as comfortably as friends do and seem to be mesh well. She knows, shares, and understands my phone phobia and she's a semi-sucky friend like I am, as in loses track of time and forgets to respond to your email promptly but shows back up soon enough and misses you and acts like you spoke yesterday. It's become somewhat of a contest to see who slacks the longest on the return of communication.

So we pretty much just skipped all of the superficial/artificial "I'm normal and on top of things and not scared of the phone" bullshit and got right down to it, love me or leave me style.

She invited me over for dinner on Friday but without the kids. As much as I LOVE this without the kids's not always easy for me to do. When I asked her if she wanted to go camping she said yes, but let's ditch the kids. LOL. I almost asked her this morning if she wanted to go to Disney with us in September if we go, but I wasn't sure if that was too much too fast. And we really can't ditch the kids for that one.

I also REALLY want to tell her about the closet because I know she would love it and some people think it's a fun way of keeping up with my life while I'm on my distracted/busy phases, but I just don't know, especially now that there has been so much talk of it and her. I'm sure she'd be flattered and amused, but the whole thing is a little weird.

Okay, now I've REALLY got to go clean up. Seriously. Like, the clock is ticking. Ugh.


Jen said...

I think you and girl crush = match made in heaven. I mean seriously dinner, no kids??? Camping, no kids???? hummmmm....sounds fancy.

go for it! and then come back to tell us all about it.

Anonymous said...

I love this whole 'girl crush' thing, it cracks me up. I actually thought of you (read: your blog) because I just met someone at my mom's group and she sent me a message this morning telling me she's going to call me tonight. On the phone. I clearly let everyone know on our message board that I am anti-phone in the worst way and that if people called don't be surprised if I don't answer it. We have caller ID and literally answer the phone to 2 phone numbers regularly. I'm a freak like that. But still, she wants to phone to make plans to hang out. Yikes! My first potential mom friend! Her daughter was a brat though... mine probably is too and I'm just immune to it. Okay, enough rambling. Just wanted you to know that your discussions on phone-aphobia has made me feel normal (sort of).

Have fun casting and with Em and BK tonight *snicker*


Mel said...

Ashley! You can do it! I've done all sorts of stuff today, and then I realized it was Wednesday. I thought about you and your WIOWs. I'm not having a drink or anything like that, I've got to drive around, and hopefully get rid of this minivan I'm driving and get my car back (long story). So, don't give up! If nothing else, at least you have inspired one person to get off their backside and do some things I've been putting off!!

KatBouska said...

I have a girl crush too, but I don't know how to transition from that "hey I see you every once in awhile and think you're a riot" stage to the "come over to my place and watch the Bachelor and drink each time some chick cries" stage. It's all about bridging the gap. I've got to bridge that gap.

Anonymous said...

what Kathy said.... exactly!

Multislacking Mama said...

Listen, you have to tell her about the closet. That's the only way she can start leaving comments in order to be able to go on the cruise. Tell her... I can't wait to meet her.


Renee said...

I think you should tell her about the blog. She will love you even more than she already does. I want to say that when I told you to go do 3 things and report back to me, I did not mean write a blog entry, drink a coke, and walk around. And you know that. Tsk tsk tsk. :)

-The Renee

the rural rube said...

It's such a weird dilemma. Wait until you're good and drunk around the campfire, and tell her. She loves you. She's going to be SUPER flattered!!
Remember that "girl crush" that I met at the playground that day a couple of months ago now? She finally emailed me yesterday!!!!! talk about leaving me hanging!!
We're going to set a date to meet at the zoo or the playground.

I hope it goes as well for me.